I had started working on a blog today which was happy and a totally different direction from my every week writing, then a walked through a Pro Life display and I changed my mind. I frequently discuss how my writing is not meant to influence anyone’s choices. I selfishly hope that at least one blog rings true for one person, and that I am not necessarily alone in my views. But here I sit knowing that I cannot stay mute on this topic that has me now so emotionally charged.
When I was in grade 7 at a catholic junior high, one of my teachers was discussing viewpoints in our health class. He told us a story about his wife and her best friend. The two women were incredibly close, but had learned over the years that they had morally different viewpoints regarding pro life and pro choice. They were on such opposite sides of the fence that neither woman could ever bring this subject up or the friendship of many years would be over. Looking back at that story I am number one, amazed that our catholic teacher didn’t get in trouble for telling it. And number two, shocked by what an impact this subject has on people, myself included.
As far as I can tell there seems to be 4 viewpoints out there in regards to a woman finding out she is pregnant.
1)Keep it
2)Give it up for adoption
3)Terminate the pregnancy
4)Leave the decision in “God’s” hands (yes I can hear the moral outcry for this one)
I am calling a spade a spade here and I am not pulling any punches. I am outraged by any community/group and or organization feeling that they have any right to sway a woman’s decision. What’s worse is to make a woman feel any shame or guilt about such a personal subject. Too many doctors have been harassed and even murdered by these people that I am sickened to the core. I know that I may be losing a whole bunch of readers by posting this blog, as I am already losing a few people on facebook for my comments.
Here’s the way I see it. The decisions when you are surprised by a pregnancy are hard. It is an emotional roller coaster and something that you live with for the rest of your life. Plus you have all these hormones to deal with too. I believe that every woman should be given a list of her 3 options, no number 4 is not valid, it is just a great way to pass the buck! When presented with these 3 options, she should be given contact information to research or talk to a representative for all three choices. Give her a few days to decide and weigh out her own personal lifestyle and make a decision that she is the most OK with. Individuals will make the correct decision for their own person if provided with facts and opportunity to do any additional research and ask as many questions as they need to.
I am pro choice because they provide these options. If family doctors throughout the country were responsible enough to provide this clear information to all of their patients in an unbiased way, well the world would have a little less judgement in it. I am still in shock about how emotionally charged up I felt walking through those displays. They are put up to initiate a response, and open the door to spew their viewpoints into willing and unwilling passersby. I feel that this is not a responsible method for distributing their views. Thanks for reading and please feel free to comment below as I know that communication and education is key in dealing with these situations.
Really…facebook ppl leaving you over your fb comment???
well, to that I must say one of my favourite quotes by Dr. Suess (or at least I think it was said by Dr. Suess)…
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind, don't matter; and those who matter, don't mind."
Dr. Seuss is the perfect quote to get back to writing about what I enjoy. Thanks for the reality check.