I will be using this post on an ongoing basis to share some of the books that have impacted me in the writing of this blog. Please feel free to share with me in the comments section any books that you would like to recommend as well. Happy reading 🙂
Sex at Dawn By Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha : Originally it was titled ” How we mate, why we stray and what it means for modern relationships”. This book really focuses on the myth about our evolution as monogamous beings, and shed light using evolutionary evidence for how humans probably mated. It also offers a bit of insight into why men have a tough time not straying.
A Billion Wicked Thoughts By Ogi Ogas and Sai Goddam : This book is the first to use internet research as an anonymous basis for extracting what really turns human beings on. It was eye opening to learn just why we are turned on, and opened my eyes at least to a lot of misconceptions that I had regarding porn.
The Art of Seduction By Robert Greene : I loved this book from the first moment I picked it up. Robert Greene in all his books uses historical stories to show the main types of seducers and their most common targets. It is a book I have re read a few times and would highly encourage everyone to read it.
Why Men Love Bitches By Sherry Argov : Honestly this was just a fun read, and the timing when I read it was ideal as I had just gone through a breakup. Thus the author playfully pointed out a few keys areas where things probably went wrong. There is not a lot of detail, more broad ideas that can get you thinking.
The Ethical Slut By Dossie Easton and Janet W Hardy : A guide to open relationships, polyamory, etc. The first half of this book was amazing in its straighforward and open talk about the ups and downs of loving more that one person. For me the last half was quite new age which I have a tougher time subscribing to, but all in all there were some strong points made and there are activities that partners can try even in a monogamous pairing to help fight and communicate more effectively.
Nine Parts of Desire : The Hidden World of Islamic Women By Geraldine Brooks. An inside look at Islamic woman both through their eyes and that of the author. One of those books that I have avoided reading for years yet truly opened my eyes to how woman can willingly live a life so foreign to me. The amazing power that the Islamic faith really has over both the men and women was a very interesting read, especially on my posts regarding woman’s rights.
Whores in History: Prostitution in Western Society By Nickie Roberts. I am including this book in my reading list as it deals with the origins of woman’s sexual freedom or rather lack there of. The evidence presented in this book of repression of a persons right to use their bodies in any way they choose is very well laid out. I have a whole new respect for the working girl and just how much their plight impacts my daily life. A very necessary read to anyone who deems themselves for feminism or against feminism.
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus By John Gray. This book was tough to include, however as the book clearly states it has sold nearly 14 million copies and therefor is a part of how the generation before me views men and women. I read this book solely to understand the framework that millions of people have used to view men and women. Although I disagree with much in this book, I do accept that it is a part of relationships and how we view them, thus the inclusion on my reading list.
Models: Attract Women Through Honesty By Mark Manson. This book was eye opening, both for some internal introspection and the eye opening about what men really need to do to attract a woman. Self improvement is key, being honest with yourself, and knowing what you want. Big endorsement, and will be highly recommended to any man who is struggling in attracting a mate.
Gender Gap: The Biology of Male-Female Differences By David P. Barash and Judith Eve Lipton. I really struggled with the reading of this book. I was fascinated at times by the evolutionary examples in the animal kingdom of sexual diversity, and then wanted to throw the book across the room as a result of the assumptions and social dynamics that humans were placed in. For example, saying evolutionary traits have proven we are not monogamous beings, and then saying that there is no record in the authors minds of an open relationship working. If you can overlook such contradictions and ignore the opinions of the authors, it has some enlightening points.