I have pondering how best to make my views clear about how dating and relationships are changing in our society. Although I have not come to any solid conclusion as to whether this is going to ultimately be a positive or a negative there are a few aspects that are definitely making me wonder just how out of touch we are with our fellow man. I have long since known about such groups that glorify pick up artists or vilify depending on what side of the coin you are on. I have some opinions that are based on personal experiences, and they have expanded my viewpoints from my previous stance that all PUA are slimy and could never get in my pants. I constantly am evolving my views based on new information and education, but I fear I may be in the minority. Specifically I fear that groups the utilize seduction are becoming dangerously polarized and are missing the point of why these techniques work and more importantly overlook the centuries of research and hard work.
Yesterday I read about a society called the red pill. I do not want to over simplify them as that would result in contributing to more polarized views and that is not my intent. However for purposes of this blog and sharing new information about relationships I will do a quick summary. The Red Pill ‘society’ has evolved as men’s rebuttal to feminism. As women are becoming accepted as equal, having more places in society where their voices can be heard, there exists a group of men who fear that they are losing some ground. They are trying to use the art of seduction, the game, and pick up techniques to bring about a new and defined purpose for themselves. Unfortunately the majority of criticism stems from how woman are viewed in this new level of consciousness. If men are fighting feminism, then woman stand to be objectified, and purposed for sex and reproduction alone. I should mention that inherent in the red pill is the dichotomy of the blue pill group which arguably have features and the mentality opposite to the red ‘pillars’.
Why does it constantly seem that society is so hell bent on putting our world and relationships into categories. You are a feminist or a red pill follower. This branched into you think like a red pill or a blue pill person. Little boxes, and categories that do nothing to bring us closer together. The aim seems to be separation, dichotomies, and a place where you belong. With all our education, viewpoints and surplus of ideas available should we not be fighting these norms? Should we not be attempting to expand and utilize all the materials we have available and think in more 3 dimensional states rather than this mere 2D?
I have read quite a few books on seduction, sex, relationships, and self help books. I do this with intention of bettering myself, and strengthening the relationships I have with those around me. I forget sometimes that these resources can be used to control, or to create unnecessary competition between our peers. Alpha beta battles among men, feminism or red pill between the sexes, all frame works created within the last few decades polarizing how we treat each other. Should we not be able to see beyond the black and white? To exist in a world of colour, where by we cease oversimplifying everything we see. Where we accept that there can be multiple opinions and states of being that expand our horizons and challenge us to be individuals? Whole humans, not categorized, not dichotomized, not put into labels and dismissed?