In a previous post I mentioned some things to avoid when it comes to online dating. Now I want to share some useful information I have discovered when it comes to just getting started, and putting up your profile or preparing yourself to go out there and meet people. The very important task of how do you sell yourself is something that successful people put thought into prior to dating. It is important to ask how do you see yourself, what image are you portraying to those people around you, and the toughest one, do these two images actually represent who you want to be.
First impressions are important. Yes, you can overcome a bad first impression, however it is easier to just put a great foot forward on the first try. Who wants an even bigger challenge, when you can get it right the first time? One of the first things I notice online, is if a guy or gal has negativity in their profile. How fantastic is it when you meet someone for the first time and within seconds you get a sob story? This person will become an object to avoid, for fear of being sucked down into that void of bleakness. The same logic should apply when setting up your profile. Do not have a list of things that you hate, and pet peeves, especially within the first few lines. If you can take the time to spell out what you do not like, try putting the same effort into what you do like, or perhaps even love?
Also try to avoid statements that could spark a negative emotion. For example saying that you hate online dating, could make the reader feel guilt for being online themselves looking for love. Or by saying this is the last time you are trying this because women/men are crazy. Come on, this just leaves a bad taste in the readers mouth. What are you going to talk about on your first date? All the horror stories from online dating, finding out all the red flags of a person, only to realize that you found out nothing about a person’s passions, goals or aspirations in life. You need to ignite a positive vibe, come up with something that an onlooker wants to find out more about.
These are not complex ideas, and yet more than half of the profiles I read if they get past the “will fill out later” have something bad to say in them. And once you start getting a few people interested in you that you do not feel the same about, it is easy to start putting up walls to protect yourself. I found my biggest surprise in E when I was online dating. There are great and amazing people on there, you just have to ensure that you are one of them first and foremost.