I have quite a few musings and sometimes angry rants about how people I interact with are judgmental in regards to my open relationship. I am now experiencing a shift in thought. Between media, education and a general societal awareness, open relationships are becoming a more common place term. And now the questions can begin, still shrouded in judgement, but a start none the less.
There is still that morbid curiosity from the monogamous, the questions of why, how, and what is missing in your relationship. But a few questions of late seem to have more curiosity, than actual negativity. I am not sure yet how to respond. I have grown accustomed to having my back up, to deleting harassing messages, and to block people who behave in an aggressive manor towards my lifestyle. Surprisingly, over the past few weeks I find myself having to take a step back, a deep breath and then actually write answers to thoughtful and curious queries. I never in my wildest dreams thought I would see a shift in awareness so quickly.
It is encouraging to see people learning new things, or at the very least aware of things outside their perceived bubbles. I see more and more television shows depicting polyamory, and openness in a way that shows both good and bad sides. Fair, tempered, and full bodied depictions of real world couples trying to find their own happiness. That is all I want for myself, and for my loved ones. Love and support in whatever way suits you, if ethics are being followed and respected of course.
Selfishly, I do hope that this shift continues because I would love a few more couples in my dating pool. Variety is the spice of my life, and why have 2, when you can have 4 or even 6? The realist in me knows that I should just keep taking baby steps here. There is still a tonne of murky water to wade through. Still so much fear, and misconception, but if I can get a stranger to be kind and curious vs the norm I have come to expect, then I say progress is at hand. Let the open awareness continue to grow. People continue to grow, explore and expand their horizons just as I have done. Education, rather than hatred towards what is not understood.