Saturday night my partner and I decided that we needed a night out, swing club style. And yes, it has been a while since we’ve attended a club. So, in direct contrast to this time last year when we were attending once a month, this actually felt like more of a treat or a special event if you will. One of the things that we are both very good at doing is going in with low expectations (which I do not mean negatively). And by that I mean, if we attend and get to talk to a few couples throughout the evening and finish the night with just the two of us having sex surrounded by people we call that a great night. And I know, for anyone who has never attended one that may come as a shock. So, I will re-iterate for clarity. If we are able to socialize and then just have sex the two of us, we go home meeting our expectations.
Now with that in mind, this last weekend, was a rush! And why? Because we not only chatted with one new couple, but we actually connected with a bunch of really rad people. There was laughter, mingling and just a general excitement that felt electric. I mean, we actually met a few couples that we want to see outside of the club. And that, is truly amazing for us. Imagine how hard it was for you to find someone when you were single. Now imagine that the dating pool is only 1% of that, being non-monogamous specifically. And now we are looking for not one, but two people we get along with! It’s a teeny tiny mathematical number that if we looked at the odds with a critical mindset, it would probably be better to just not even try.
Thankfully though, I am a near annoying optimist with an unwavering perseverance to keep trying. And for my partner, well, the rewards far outweigh any risk, by pretty much the positive power of whatever negative we are sitting in right now. And that is why I am jubilant right now, in knowing that we interacted with a few couples! I mean, it’s a damn near impossibility and yet, here I sit, trying to calm my mind from racing too far ahead with the fantasy of dating multiple couples at the same time. So, I am trying to snap myself into a logical, reality based frame. But, I cannot quite shake this smile. And to hear my partner daily say how much fun Saturday was, just brings a smile to my face. It was fun, and we have real opportunity in the future to continue the fun. And, well, I am just on a little bit of a swing club high right now.
The actual events of Saturday were fabulous, with playtime and touching of new people and the amazing visual stimulus that we keep coming back for. But, the reality is, I am far more excited for the future us, rather than where the two of us were in that moment just shortly around 1 AM. It’s easy to get laid in a swing club, especially when you bring your own partner. What’s tricky, is finding something fun outside of it. A couple with whom, you are trying to set up a date in the real world. And if everything lines up the way I am so hopeful for, maybe a few of them?
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