A small inconsistency that I have encountered in the dating world is misrepresentation by men. In that I mean, men using fake pictures and profiles to entice woman. Now I am all for privacy, and keeping your personal life separate from your online life, but when it comes time to online dating the lines get blurry. It feels downright dangerous meeting a guy who looks absolutely nothing like his picture, or is a good 5 inches shorter than on his profile. These may seem like superficial things, but it begs the question, if they lied about something so blatantly obvious then what else are they lying about? Do they actually have 5 kids under the age of 5, living off of welfare, and a dungeon type playroom that they want their new partner to just stumble upon?
It is all a matter of safety and personal preference, but it puzzles me in that men are very visual in their sexual needs. So if they have a picture of them selves that represents a tall, 6 packed Greek god type persona, and in reality they are short, pudgy, and balding, it makes me wonder just how skewed their reality really is. Yes we can all fantasize that we look a certain way, and perhaps this image is more of a goal than just craziness, but it is hard to give someone a second chance when they have such bold image misrepresentation.
I read men complain all the time that woman never write them back. I have read articles where men test the superficiality of woman by setting up multiple profiles with various paying careers listed and track the variances of responses. Unsurprisingly the higher paying jobs the more interest, so yes woman seek financial security as a primary dating characteristic. The lesson learned from this should not be that woman are superficial, and only go after the rich. Rather that woman may find you less attractive if you are in your 40’s working minimum wage and hate your job. No fake pictures and profiles are needed if you work a job for less money, but absolutely love what you do and your passion shines through. Work life balance is taking on more importance than 6 figures. And yes it is all about how you sell yourself, if anything under promise and over deliver as the other way around is creepy at best.