Ok, let us delve a little deeper into this whole aftershock conversation. One of the most surprising things to be brought up, is the correlation between aftershocks and NRE (new relationship energy). Now this is a fascinating rabbit hole that I am eager to go down. I personally have always equated NRE with the butterflies and have written a few articles on how I adore chasing butterflies. In fact, that is precisely what made non-monogamy so appealing to me. The idea of being in a solid relationship and not having to shut off the possibilities of experiencing butterflies with new people.
But what if what I was describing with sexual aftershocks has some sort of correlation with NRE? Butterflies and NRE for me, have been this sheer blissful, shocking, happiness wave of new excitement. Whereas with the aftershocks, it is entirely sexual in nature and is basically like little reminiscent orgasms when I experience a memory. And the memory could be as far back as with my first relationship, or first time masturbating with a new toy, or the like. They are random and unexpected body sparking orgasmic memories. And yes, often it overlaps with NRE, or the butterflies, but I’m not positive that this is a correlation vs causation scenario. It feels different to me somehow.Earn points for surveys in your spare time (affiliate).
I get the butterfly feeling when I flirt, or see a cute face (or butt). But, cannot get that aftershock feeling unless there has been a physical connection. It’s like the release of stored or shared energy. Haha… I’m really trying to explain this, and all I am doing is turning myself on! I of course, want everything. The sex, the aftershocks, the butterflies, and the NRE. Yes, please universe, yes please!
Now, these are only my thoughts, based on my experience. Maybe I’m overlooking something. I really want to hear from you, and your thoughts. Where do you fall on this? Have you had aftershocks? What is the experience like for you? Do you know any resources that discuss this? Let’s talk about this!
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