And what is pre-Christmas Single Shopping you might ask? Well, quite simply, it is the time for vetting out the person who will be good enough in a pinch. It is the person who looks good in pictures, or just good on paper, whatever you may need at bare minimum. The guy or gall who dresses up nicely and can make polite conversation at a company Christmas party. It is the individual who has been friendzoned forever, so will be extra excited at the opportunity to be seen out in public with you. Or maybe, it’s that friendly face on the dating site who messaged you and you didn’t instantly cringe, so now that you’re a little desperate and lonely, well… it is the season of giving right?
It is almost like the speed date. You have two weeks or less before Christmas to make a decision to bring around you maybe partner, or spend the holidays alone. Online dating messages around this time are nice, polite, and just all around easy to read. Or maybe the writers have just all had their rum and eggnog so their barriers are lowered when they scroll through the multitude of pictures. I cannot say for sure, but there is a tone difference in messages.
So if this is a decision you recently had to make, enjoy your newly single shopping. Be nice to your friendzoned maybe partner. Be courteous to the new person who is as lonely as you and will scratch your back at your family’s gathering if you scratch theirs. Remember the campsite rule! And who knows, maybe this defenses down chance you’re taking could be the best thing you ever did, and there are many more happy Christmas’ together in your future.
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As Halloween approaches, so does the sexism narrative. Our sexy little sirens come out to play, and the costumes get tighter and skimpier year by year. As you may well know based on previous posts I approve wholeheartedly with this trend. Why? Freedom of expression. If a lady wants to feel sexy, then she gets to. If a woman wants to show off her goods, then fantastic. If anyone needs a holiday in order to dress up, to show a side that they keep hidden most of the year, then this is the perfect time to do so.
I have taken things a few steps further; “I will honour Christmas in my heart, and try to keep it all the year. I will live in the Past, the Present, and the Future. The Spirits of all Three shall strive within me. I will not shut out the lessons that they teach”, Charles Dickens, A Christmas Carol. Swap out Christmas for Halloween and boom, there you have my mindset. I have taken off the masks that Halloween has afforded me, and thrive to live the same way all year round. If I want to dress up, I do so. If I want to play the siren for a night, I do. If I want to show off my body, I do it. This holiday, truly has become my favorite, as it allowed me to explore a different side of my sexuality safely, and I proudly have expanded this to all the days of the year.
I have taken the lessons that Halloween and dressing up have afforded me, and I have incorporated them into my daily life. I am freer, because of this holiday. I am less afraid of nudity or even of my own body because I was able to dress up. To try on different masks and personalities, and with a little liquid courage now and again, I live the person that I want to be, right now. I am present.
Now boys, if you want to start joining in the trend of tighter fitting clothes or showing off some muscles during the Halloween season too, then yay. I am all for equality of the sexes. Let’s make this a season of sexiness, confidence, and taking a moment to step outside of your shell. Confidence in numbers, and all that jazz. Let’s make a movement to live with sexual confidence and positive vibes with or without a costume. No slut shaming, or judgement. Just freedom of expression, thought and voice. And of course tricks and treats whenever the need or want should arise.
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Last stampede, the big headline was the alley way threesome, which involved a leaked video of 2 men, tag teaming a woman. She became the Stampede Slut and took my top 3 Google search place of the same name. I followed this story with much curiosity from Italy, as I was on vacation and missing my very first Stampede in 30 some years. Now here is the thing, this woman earned her title, and deserved displacing my ranking. I write about being a slut with pride, and this woman took it to a whole new level. A quick search will tell you all you need to know about these events, and you can probably still find the now infamous video. The take away from this, is that the woman owned what she did. Getting fired and having her booty all over the internet was probably not planned, but instead of hiding, suing everyone in sight, and or curling up into a little ball in her basement, this woman took a much tougher path. She owned it. She admitted it was her, and even started capitalizing on the incident by making appearances at various strip clubs over the following months.
So here’s what I take away from this. This woman owned the title slut. And she made slut a word of power. That is an incredibly hard feat to do. I commend her for managing this, despite all the criticism, cruelty and backlash that she received. With head held high, she embodied the word slut. She did what very few women would dream of doing. Whether you agree or not with her public show (which I would argue was sort of secluded in an alley), she pushed a boundary. Again, she took control, she kept her power, and she was not a victim.
Please don’t be thinking that my sex tape is going to be next, based on this post. I will not be writing erotica to go along side my pictures, as it is just not my style. The reality is, her event during last Stampede, could have harmed my work and my freedom. If this woman had cried victim and started slut shaming, my follow up post would have been one screaming at her for setting women back yet again. Thankfully, I get to reap some rewards. She became the outlier. She blasted through a societal norm and it allowed me just a little more play in my writing exploration. She reset the shock value calculator, so I gain more freedom of speech.
So thank you, stampede slut, for helping push the societal norm just a little farther. I hope now for a little less uptight crowd, and maybe just a little less tisking from elderly women when I strut around in my pretty pink chaps! Well everywhere but on the grounds, because apparently, they are cracking down on dress code that is not family friendly… for shame! I embrace being searched as a positive female character, who is trying to embrace the word slut with dignity. It is not a title I think fits my lifestyle, but it is one that I feel women need to use without shame if they so choose. May the walk of shame be forever in your past, and your walk of sexual freedom be in your future. Happy Stampede ladies!
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