Category: Grateful

A Post of Gratitude…

    K Ghislaine

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Every time I do a 30 day sex positive challenge I think to myself, wow, why don’t I do one of these all the time? And then I remember the amount of work that goes into it, and go, oh right, I don’t get paid. Haha. Yes, eating is important. But so is sex, and information to sex health, education, and resources. But enough about things you already know as a frequent reader of my work, let me delve into something new… well new for me.

A few months ago, I received an email from a guy who was developing a Couple’s Sex Quiz and had an affiliate program that he wanted me to be a part of. I receive affiliate opportunities quite often, so I did what I always do, and applied my due diligence to see if this was something I wanted to represent. If you’ve read my 30 day challenge blog post, you’ll know that I indeed said yes, because it was absolutely on brand for me, and I really enjoyed taking the quiz myself. Fine, nothing really new here, but then, I received a follow up e-mail, that hit me right in the feels: They wrote a blog post… about me!

I have been blogging for 15 years, and have written in various publications, and of course there is the book pitching which I have painstakingly worked on for over a year now. In these roles, I am often asked to write bios, or little blurbs on myself, sometimes even writing full pages of credentials and “who am I” prompts. It honestly, is the most difficult part of being a writer. It feels like selling myself, in order to get people interested in the words I write… about myself. Just one full cycle of vulnerability. But then, to read another person’s take on me, a person they have never met? Well, it was a bunch… of feelings.

You’re welcome to read the post yourself, which you can read at the bottom of their site if you go to blogs (mine is right at the top). And while it was lovely, humbling, and so complimentary it was the first time someone has written a blog post about me. Yes, I’ve had a few introductions over the years, mostly prompted from something I had to draft for them, but this was different. It was a complete surprise and it reminded me just how wonderful it feels to be appreciated. Further, it was a beautiful reminder that words matter. Intention is important, and finally, and most importantly how incredible it is to be lifted up by someone else. And that, is what I want to impart on people. Celebration of others is how we are going to combat this doom and gloom that surrounds us on the day to day.

Yes, I celebrate being sex positive and I encourage each of you to embrace something that makes you smile, gives you joy, perhaps even pleasure. But also, share that with someone who has made you smile. Who has brightened your day, or given you reason to hope, if only for a moment. The world needs it right now. We all need it right now. Let’s spread some gratitude, and get that sex positive energy flowing.

My Blog is Back! And Here’s to 5 More Years!

    K Ghislaine
Well, as our wet summer nearly wraps itself up, I can finally get back into the blogging swing of things.  My absence in blogging over the summer was not planned, in fact it was a complete accident.  My poor laptop took a nap in a few centimeters of water and never regained consciousness.  My amazing partner was able to save all my data, and pictures but unfortunately I needed a new place to retrieve them from.  So with the wait time settling into a new laptop and the general busyness of the summer weeks I decided to just take the whole damn thing off. 
I am incredibly grateful that my summer months were so action packed because I just don’t get the same satisfaction anymore in putting pen to paper as I do typing out my thoughts.  I enjoy handwriting poetry in a beautiful notebook.  It brings me such tranquility, but a part of me only feels safe having them around my house because very few people could actually read my cursive.  And I am so slow handwriting these days.  The reality is I have found such comfort in the efficiency of typing, being able to actually have my fingers keep up with my random thoughts, that I find writing things down to be cumbersome and frustrating.  There is an art form to keeping journals, but my writing has evolved into a need more than a want.  I need the escape of my words.  I need the freedom to type out my thoughts and unburden my mind from the rampant thoughts that periodically keep me up at night.

And thus, I am back writing, blogging and enjoying the technology that makes it all possible.  So stay tuned while I get back to questioning my relationship norms and sharing the stories that have kept many of you coming back so many times over the last 5 years!  And as I missed celebrating with you all the milestone of 5 years of blogging, here is the link to my very firstpost!  Thank you all for sticking with me on my journey through open relationships and breaking free of societal norms.